Sacred Boundaries: Protecting Your Alchemy and Purpose

In this episode, I’m reflecting on the importance of creating sacred boundaries—those energetic lines that protect your peace, your purpose, and the magic that makes you, you.

Inspired by a journaling activity from the Artist's Way about building my sacred circle, I share what it revealed about who and what truly supports me, and how to lovingly release the people, spaces, and mindset that don’t. This process reminded me how essential it is to protect my alchemy—the energy, creativity, and intuition that fuel my becoming.

When we honor what’s sacred, we give our dreams room to grow. We give ourselves what we need to thrive. I hope this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and protect what’s meant for you—because everything outside of that is interference.

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Transcript

Amanda-Host: 0:00

Hey everyone, it's Amanda, your host for The Audacious Black Girl. This podcast is for ambitious black women. It is therapist-led. I am a therapist. So you know that our topics are gonna get deep, they're going to get expansive, explorative. I want you to tap into your curiosity. Um, but this podcast is for you because I know just like me, you're trying to grow, you're trying to pursue your purpose. You might be in a season of pivoting, but today we're gonna talk about something that I think is really, really important, and it's something that I'm navigating, and that's really protecting our sacred alchemy. And what does that mean? That means the things that you're creating, the things that you're working on, they deserve boundaries. They deserve boundaries. That's not only with the ideas that you're curating, but also with our relationships and the people that we give access to our ideas, the people that we give access to us.

Amanda-Host: 1:00

So earlier this year, I did The Artist's Way. I don't know if anyone has heard of that book, but it's basically a 12-week journaling processing book to help you tap into your creativity as an artist. Now that is whether you are a traditional artist in whatever form that may look like, but I also think it's also for us that are creatives and just are creating and cultivating our purpose and navigating what we want to do next with our lives and our careers, our endeavors, whatever it might be. So, over that 12 weeks, so many amazing things I was able to process and journal on, but my biggest one was this activity regarding creating like your sacred circle. And your sacred circle is essentially I had to put the people, the places, the ideas, everything that I hold sacred, everything that I want to protect that I will either share with others, keep to myself, everything that I felt was special to me, everything that I felt like I wanted to hold dear and share only with particular people, or those people in my sacred circle were people that I trust with my ideas that I just trust overall. And outside of the sacred circle, you had to put the people and the things that really don't facilitate or add to your life, and that was such an eye-opening experience for me.

Amanda-Host: 2:31

There were things that I put outside my circle and people, mind you, that I had no idea I really wasn't like messing with and feeling like that. Who I realized, you know what, maybe they really aren't supportive, or certain environments that really aren't supportive of me. Um, and it really allowed me to reflect on my alchemy. And my alchemy and your alchemy is just the magic that goes into what you're doing, what you're creating, and what you're pursuing, and the woman that you're becoming, right? We all have our own special magic, we all have our own energies, and it's really so important that we protect that. So, our conversation today, I want you to just to start being curious about your sacred circle. Like if you had to draw a circle and put some sacred boundaries around your ideas or certain people, who would be in that circle? Who would be outside of it? And when you reflect on that, and like I said, this is an activity from the book, but I think it was so helpful. Um, when you reflect on that, it can really be so eye-opening, really eye-opening. And what I think too is that like as we kind of like continue to expand in who we are, how we align with our higher self, we really have to be intentional about who we are sharing our ideas with, about who and where we are going and the environments that we're in, because anyone's thoughts, their energies, whether it's negative or even some false positive energy, you know, like those from those frenemies or people who act like they are supportive, but in real life, you know intuitively they're not. We have to protect ourselves, you have to protect yourself and your ideas from that and from those people, right? You have to hold yourself, those that support you and that love you, and that you support and you love and your ideas as sacred. And I think also when you hold them as sacred, you allow yourself to really actually act on them, right? When you're able to protect those things, not only are you able to really activate those ideas and those relationships and those spaces, but it allows you to really protect them and allows you to act on them in a way that feels most aligned with yourself because everything else outside of that, outside of that circle, is interference, and we don't want interference, we don't want anything adding to what we are creating and what we are doing, right? So it's something to think about as you're moving forward in life.

Amanda-Host: 5:20

Think about your sacred circle, think about your alchemy. What is the magic? What energies do you want in your alchemy? What are the ingredients that you need in what it is that you're creating and what you're pursuing in your life and how you're aligning with your higher self and how you're embodying that higher self version of you, right? We have to be intentional about those things, and you know, I know for one, for me, I tend to keep things really close to the heart, and I I have difficulty sometimes sharing, and sometimes it's me deciphering between am I keeping this close to my heart because I, you know, believe in moving in silence, or is it I don't feel safe enough to share with certain people? I don't feel safe enough to um share ideas or what I'm working on with certain people or in certain spaces in certain environments that you know don't cultivate my being. So I know for me that's an active practice of deciphering, and I tend to kind of think or process whether or not there's you know some sort of anxiety there, you know, or what energy is there that's making me prevent me from sharing an idea or allowing someone into my space. And if there's a bit of hesitation, anxiety is normal, right? Like we might get anxiety because we're doing something new, something exciting, but if I'm feeling something deeper than that, my intuition telling me, yeah, don't share this with this person, or you know, they don't need to be privy to what you're doing, or you know, this space doesn't feel really comfortable for me to operate in, or this relationship, whatever it might be, you know, really tap into that. And even if you feel the difficulty in not sharing, because people always ask, like, what are you doing? Like, what are you working on? This, that, and the other, you can always pause, right? You can always reframe as well and say, Yeah, you know what, I do have some things going on. I'm not ready to share yet, right? And that's something that I'm also cultivating myself when I feel like there's something that um I'm working on and I don't want to share it. It's either I'm keeping quiet or I'm just kind of going, no, yeah, I'm not ready to share yet, right? And leave it at that. You know, I think we have to get comfortable with not um sharing everything that we're doing and working on everything that's going on in our lives because we definitely got some energy vampires out there. We definitely have people who, and you probably have people in your life too, who you just know you don't fully trust in that way, and you know, they may feign having your best interest in mind or being supportive, but really aren't. And then on the flip side of that, like really thinking about how do you release those people, right? How do you, you know, stop entering spaces that really aren't supportive of who you are, whether that's you know, you know, relationships or you know, family homes or whatever the case might be, right? So that's another layer is how do you remove yourself from those energies that really aren't supportive of you, and that one is so difficult, but it is worthy work of doing, you know, and I think that what happens the moment that you recognize that I don't need to be in this space, or I don't need to be sharing or talking with this person, you start recognizing how things start to shift in your life, you start really seeing how things start to become more in alignment because those people or those spaces are actually blocking and interfering with what you have going on. And something too, I think you notice when you like release those people and stop entering spaces that aren't supportive of you and stop sharing ideas with people that aren't supportive of you, is that you really do start to um step more, step more into who you are, step more into your own part, and you start recognizing once you release them that you know the blessings that you deserve, the blessings that have always been there, just trying to make their way to you, start to flow to you easier. The blessings that we have in our life, the things that are in our world and our spaces that are trying to make their way to us, you can sense them at times. Like when you know there's more for you, right? When you know that like there's so much more, and I can feel it, I can feel it happening, but there's resistance or there's just something that's preventing it from flowing to you. Start assessing your boundaries, start assessing who's in your space and who's not, who's interfering, who's providing some static, making it difficult for those blessings to come into your life. And sometimes, too, to be honest, there's an element of our own level of resistance in not believing in ourselves, our own level of resistance in um, you know, thinking that we're not worthy of acting on certain ideas or that our ideas or the purpose that we feel like we're being called to um just really isn't accurate, right? Like we don't believe it, right? So sometimes interference is you, right? So even in that sacred circle, the sacred boundaries, outside of that, put those ideas and those thoughts and those those um negative thinking and negative beliefs outside of that. Don't allow them into your sacred circle, you know. You got things to work on, you got things to do, girl, and I really am rooting for you. I'm rooting for you. And you know, for me personally, like this is something that I actively think about often, especially the season of my life that I'm in right now. I've done uh been through some major changes, um, and I think I said in the first episode that I'll be exploring that more this season and and you know, opening up about the changes that I've experienced, but you know, it it the interference I think that I've had in my life, a lot of it, a lot of it was coming from me. A lot of it was coming from me not wanting to really look at myself with that deep uh you know curiosity and honesty, really being honest with myself about what I wanted for my life.

Amanda-Host: 11:54

So my own way of thinking, my own beliefs, um, my own centering, not centering of myself was huge, right? So in doing like that activity earlier this year as well, it allowed me to really put outside all of those things that really, you know, weren't supportive of me and that were coming from me. Oh, and that was hard, you know. But being honest about it, you know, and visually seeing it, you know, outside of the circle really made me come face to face with the truth of my experiences and come face to face with you know the difficulties that I I was navigating, you know. We all tend to self-sabotage at times for whatever reasons, many different reasons. But I think it's really, really important that we be honest about that. And that's something I I work on with my therapy clients as well, is I I tell them what my philosophy is just holding up a mirror so they can really see themselves truthfully. And all I do as a therapist is I shift it a little, shift it a little bit so that you can see a different perspective, right? So you can explore a different perspective, you know. But the first step to that is holding up that mirror so you can see your truth, and you can really be honest with yourself about what you're navigating and what you're experiencing. So, you know, I'm always rooting for you, especially you, my amazing, ambitious black woman. I just want you to live your absolute best, most aligned life.

Amanda-Host: 13:25

And I do hope this topic, this conversation around your alchemy and creating your sacred circles, your sacred boundaries, and understanding and and exploring what's in that and what needs to be outside of that shifts you in a way that is needed. We all need to shift. We all will go through moments of great, great shifts that we need so we can move out of our own way so that we can really recognize what's for us and what isn't, and move forward in a way that feels so intentional, so aligned, and so purposeful with who we are and what we want out of our life. So, thank you so much for listening to the Audacious Black Girl. Um, I will see you at the next one. Peace.